In
honor of National Breastfeeding Awareness Month I figured I would share my ups
and downs with breastfeeding. About 2 weeks ago I gave birth to twin girls, my
second set of twins in the span of 19 months. I was thrilled to have 2 more
wonderful children and a second chance at breastfeeding. You see, 19 months ago
when I gave birth to my first twins, I had a horrible experience with the birth,
recovery from surgery and breastfeeding.
This
time around I was at a different hospital with a different doctor so I was
hoping for a better experience. I did still end up with a c-section, which I feel
separates you from your children for an undesirable amount of time. However, at
least this time I got to hold my babies within a few hours as opposed to 8
hours later like the first time. I had really high hopes both pregnancies. I had
dreams of tandem breastfeeding my twins until they were 2. I longed for the
bonding experience that breastfeeding is said to create. I prayed for these
children for so many years, and I just wanted every possible mommy experience.
We
took a birthing class and the nurse taught us all about breastfeeding; we saw
diagrams, photos and videos. Based on this information and all the women I knew,
not to mention the movies, I thought breastfeeding would be a breeze. Its natural
right? I assumed that all babies would just be born ready to nurse. I mean,
what did women do before lactation consultants, bottles, nipple shields and
shells, and pumps? Didn’t all babies just start nursing before they starved to
death?
Boy
was I naïve. My first children were premature, born at 34weeks 6days. I can
only assume that played some role in their inability to nurse. We had 4 lactation
consultants and countless nurses try to help us with breastfeeding. My kiddos
just couldn’t get the hang of it. So I pumped. And that was disheartening. On a
good day I could get 3oz total from a pump. That just will not feed twins. I realize
now that I was under a lot of stress at the time and I probably wasn’t staying
hydrated; 2 things which can hurt your milk supply.
So
here we are again, 19 months later, trying to breastfeed a new set of twins. This
time around I did get to put a baby to breast sooner than 3 days after birth
(which is what happened last time) and I thought it was semi successful. For a
couple of days I would try to breastfeed and I would have the lactation
consultant stop in to help. I thought things were going well. I had them bring
in a pump so that I could get a lot of colostrum for the girls since my milk hadn’t
“come in” yet. The pediatrician said they looked great and that for about 3
days I didn’t need to worry about how much the babies got from the breast. Well,
the next day we found that my one little girl’s urine was brown; she was
dehydrated. So I found myself in a position where I could “stick to my guns” of
breastfeeding only with no bottles used or I could supplement with formula
until my milk came in, thus treating her dehydration. I of course opted to
supplement with the formula for her sake. On the fourth day I started to get a
trickle of milk, but not much. Even when I pumped it was like I was made of
stone.
My
friend gave me a lactation supplement and I started it once I got home. I kept
hoping and waiting and literally praying that my milk supply would increase. Days
and days went by and still I barely could get an ounce from each breast. I visited
another lactation consultant and with the use of a nipple shield we got a baby
to latch successfully, but after nursing her for 30 minutes she had only taken
in 10ml of breast milk. She normally drinks 2 ½ ounces of formula; that’s 75ml
so the 10ml I was able to make for her was just a drop in the bucket.
The
consultant sent me home with the task of solely pumping for 24 hours (no baby
to breast) to track how much milk I was actually producing. This would help her
to determine if I could physically make enough milk to feed my children. In 36
hours I only made 13 ounces. Each of my twins were eating 20 ounces a day…so
this was more than a little discouraging. The results are that I just don’t produce
enough to feed my twins; I have to supplement with formula. Since then, I rarely
get to nurse my twins. My life is so chaotic right now with my 19mo twins and
the newborns. My little girls need so much help to nurse that I just don’t do
it much. I still try to pump every 3 hours at least, but sometimes 6 hours go
by between pumps because life just happens
.
I
feel like as a woman I should be able to provide milk to feed my children. I feel
like as a large breasted woman, these cumbersome things that have burdened me
all my life should finally be put to good use and nourish my children. Sometimes
I just feel like a failure. So many people ask “are you breastfeeding”
immediately upon meeting my new babies and I then feel the need to explain what
an inverted nipple is and give a rationalization as to why I cannot breastfeed
both twins at the same time while simultaneously feeding my other twins,
changing 4 diapers, and feeding myself; like I have to justify my use of
bottles and formula.
However,
I have an awesome husband and a group of friends who encourage me daily. They remind
me that I have 4 kids under the age of 2; 2 sets of twins. That I just had
major surgery. That I am doing the best that I can. That there is nothing wrong
with pumping and bottle feeding. That these kids are healthy and thriving and
happy. That my sanity and happiness is more important than what other moms
think of me.
So
in honor of National Breastfeeding Awareness Month, I salute you mothers who
successfully breastfeed your children. I admire your courage to nurse in public
and your tenacity to keep up breastfeeding even when they get teeth. So while I
may never make the cover of a magazine for audaciously breastfeeding in a
public spot, I am slowly becoming okay with the idea that I may never solely
breastfeed. If you are like me, and struggle with producing enough milk, or
have physical challenges, or for whatever reason you just don’t breastfeed;
take heart. You are not alone, and it is okay. Formula fed babies turn out just
fine. I agree that “breast is best” but breast is not always an option.
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